I have started this blog to share my journey into becoming a dom in the DBSM world. It's something I have always thought about but never really let myself get into it. I have always put up wall as to why I can't do it. The first one is I look younger then I am and appear to be very vanilla. This has kept me back for a long time, but after talking to many folks on the site FetLife, I realized that there are a whole group of people who love the understated Dom, so that gave me a renewed vigor!
I also had a great bondage experience that really woke something in me, realizing this is really what I want. I have had the relationships based on equals, but I love telling my partner what to wear, what to do in bed and such, and when you are in an equal relationship it doesn't work very well.
The last break through I had was I always felt bad about using a boy. I felt I was using someone for my own use and it made me feel bad, but after talking to some boys, I realize that if you are good to them, they have the same desire to serve as I have to be served. So its basically a win win for both of us.
This is a quick overview of me and I plan to go into more detail about what I like, some of my fantasies and my experiences through my journey.
PS The pic on the post if off the net
i am glad to hear that you have come to terms with your dominant nature, and have been able to start accepting it as something that is good and natural, not brutish and cruel. You're absolutely right, that there is just as much mutuality in a healthy D/s relationship as their is in a healthy vanilla relationship; just by a different dynamic. i look forward to learning about Your journey! :-)
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