My Stay in Charleston and the Dissapointment

I was going to Charleston for an over night trip and I had been on Adam4adam and met this really cute beefy boy. He looked very hot and we talked for a few days and he really wanted to submit to me. Well we talked on the phone and the day before I got there he told me that he had a friend in town, this should have foreshadowed the entire trip. But, he said he could get away.

On the drive there he actually called me and I thought that was a good sign. I told him I have a friend that lives there and I have to do dinner. He said he had to leave around 8 and could come  back at 11. I told him to come over at 5:30 and stay till 7 then come back and it would be perfect.

I got to my hotel checked in and this was the plan. Then nothing. No text back, not answer on his phone so I was pissed. Then he said "oh I didn't get your texts" so I went to dinner and had a great time. This was a friend that I didn't know well but it turned out we have a lot in common. So I took my time at dinner. Now he said before he wanted a guy to come over and suck them off, so I set up a hot muscle guy, that I had to later cancel due to his schedule. So this was pissing me off.

So, I resigned to have him there at 11. He texted me and said that he would be there at 10:45. Well that time came and left. Then he said he would get his friend to drop him off at home and me come there. I"m like FUCKING A, the plan was to come to me and the directions to his house were not clear. I told him no.

So we never met. This just highlights the boys I have run across. They have delusions of being a boy but when it comes down to it, they don't follow through. It's pure fantasy for them. They have no intentions of submitting. It seems to run ramped on the guys I meet. I want to meet a cool guy thats into it. Just I"m more frustrated in myself since I should have seen the signs. But, he went and bought some stuff I like and took pics of it, so I knew he got it.

My Quesiton is how do you find a boy? Even if it's just play. What should I look for and where are good places to find them? Just really frustrated me and annoyed me.

Bondage Lesson 4, and My Charleston Trip

Well I had lesson 4. Which I found out I"m getting better and better at bondage. Which I"m very happy that I am improving. Sometimes I felt like I wasn't. This time me and limber were joined by Tallboy. My firend who's 6'8'. Which it was awesome to tie up a taller guy. We got him in a hog tie first with a harness and ankles tied up. He was there for a bit. Then we tied up his writs and ankles. He was there a bit but being married he couldn't stay out too long. He did text me this am saying he had a blast. Which I did too. Then after he left, I finally did a tie that limber couldn't get out of. I was so happy!

We are having a break for a bit, he's traveling and so am I, but the other sir teaching me will be back next week and I hope to go over there. So it will be spuratic, but I have found some gay boys to practice on. One when I go to Charleston, he's a kinda beefy shorter guy, which I love and he's new to being a sub. He's going to come to my hotel room and submit. Which is going to be awesome. We chatted this morning and he's already been instructed what to wear, he's going to buy some undies and spandex for me. I can't wait for this. It's going to be awesome, and he comes to town once a month. I need a reg boy.

I also ran across another boy local who I've talked too, he's into spandex suits and we plan to meet up. He's another beefy boy and very submissive. I have sort of run into a lot of gay boys lately. Lastly, is another local guy who's total sub and very cute. He's wanting motivation with work out goals and will start hiking with me as well. We are meeting on Friday.

So far things are going well. I'll keep you posted. I hope to blog more I just haven't been in the mood but I gotta finish the fetishes.

Bondage Lesson 3 Part 1

This is just a preview of the lesson. But I found out some things, I need to make my rope work tighter. I get it too slack. Also, I did some plastic wrap bondage. OMG I loved this, its amazing. It was so much fun and I really loved it. Its just a fun fun way to do it. I can think of this with edging and milking. But it's cheap and fun. I hope to do this a lot more then I did. I am looking forward to meeting more bondage boys!

I will have pics, only three this time and will let you know about it when I get pics!

One of My Fantasies - The Biz Exec

You have seen my fetishes and I will continue to tell you about them over the next week. But, I saw a guy on Dudes Nude yesterday that really brought one of my fantasies back, its the dominating the Biz Exec. You know the type, Type A personality, very demanding, basically a pain in the ass type. These are the people I hate working for, so this fantasy is perfect. 

You know the type, the always motivated, the "In it to Win it" type. Just over the top and wants to be successful at anything he does. He demands more from everyone around him and they are usually cocky as hell. Thinking they are awesome and can do no wrong. 

Well this is the man I want to dominate and tie up. Some of them, not sure how many, love to come home and not have to think about anything and have the Dom take charge. As you know I love a man in a suit and most wear them tailored ot them and usually look fucking amazing on them. 

One of my favorite role plays I've ever done is employee and boss. But its not like you'd expect. Its where the exec calls me into the office and starts going off on how bad I'm doing, how he's going to fire me, etc, you know the usual "we're about to fire you" speech. Then I say you're not going to fire me, and he starts to laugh, then I something like "I've seen the way you've stared at my crotch, and how bad you want to see what's in my pants" As I grab my crotch. He protests and i say well you go in the bathroom when I go, you groped me at the xmas party and stuff like that. He then knows he's busted and tries to get out of it. I stand, grab my crotch and say, I"n not fired you will suck my fucking cock. He laughs, and I walk around the desk, grab his head and shove it in my crotch. He playfully pulls away but then really goes and rubs his face on my crotch. Then I pull my cock out and he licks it like a lollypop, What he doesn't know I start taking pics with my cell phone. He keeps sucking me and pulls out his cock from his suit and he jerks as sucks me, I shoot on his face. 

We sit back down and he says "Even though that happened I'm still going to have to fire you" I pull out the cell and show him the pics and say you fire me I sue for sexual harassment" He looks at me with fright, and I say "I stay hired and you give me a raise, and you keep sucking me or HR and your wife finds out"

Thats just a fantasy. I would love to do some bondage with an exec in his suit. Would I do long term with an exec? I don't know but short term play would be awesome. Men in suits are just fucking HOT. 

Spandex, my third fetish

I will say I have a lot of fetishes. Well I wouldn't call them fetishes, more like extreme likes. According to most fetishes are needed to get off. I don't need anything to get off too other then my hand and imagination.  But this blog is letting all my kink out and it's been so much fun doing it. It's like I get to talk to people who understand and I am really loving it. I thought the pic above kinda added to my spandex and sports gear fetish.

I know when my spandex fetish happened. It was the late 80's when spandex really got big. I was on the school bus on the way home, I had to been no later then the 11th grade, and saw one of the football jocks standing on the sidewalk, in blue and red bike shorts and crop t-shirt. I thought OMG, I swear I prob got boned up right there. It was amazing. I had to get me some spandex. So, as it would be, I worked right next to a sporting good store and I went over there before work and bought some spandex. At the time and me being 16, it was a lot of money to spend but I didn't care. I got a pair of Speedo bike shorts type swimwear with purple on one side and white and black horizontal stripes on the other side. Then I got a pair of running tights. All in all it was prob 60-70 bucks but when the teenage horny mind has to have something, well price knows no limits. I ran back to my car and put them in the car and under the stairs. I went to work and for the next 4 hours they were the only things I could think about. And time just drug on and on.. OMG, I thought it would never end. But I got off work and drove the 30 mins home. I now had to figure out how to get them in the house. I grabbed them in the bag and just ran in the house. I don't think I stopped. I went to my room and immediately striped down. I was hard in an instant and having 8c, it's not easy to hide, so i was glad it waited till I got naked. I pulled on the Speedo shorts first and just felt them on my body. My cock just straining in them. I was leaking all over them. After a few I pulled them off and put on the running tights. They were strange to put on, it was similar to panty hose to me, you had to pull them up. It felt weird. Also these had a liner, which I haven't seen since. Again my cock strained. I pulled them off and laid on my bed and jerked off. I couldn't believe I had two pairs of spandex. The part I think killed me was no one saw me in them for prob two more years.

My fetish continued until I got in to singlets. I have seen them in High School and had to have one. This was prob when I was 18 or 19. There was a local store that sold them, I went up to it and bought three. One blue, one red and one reversible made out of nylon. I actually still have all of these, its hard to believe. I have wrestled in them a few times, which I'm not a fan of submission wrestling, erotic yes, actually wrestling not so much.

I have since discovered more and more guys into it. Things like the Skin Tight parties in NYC and other cities proved it. I wish I was in better shape to wear it now. I will be just have to focus. My current spandex obsession are UnderArmour and Biking Gear. There is a popular biking trail near me that always has bikers in their biking spandex shorts and shirts. I went bike shopping a few years ago and went to a bike shop on the trail and when I was in the parking lot. I was sitting, a guy pulled the bike off his bike rack. Was getting it ready, he was wearing, baggy gym shorts or doinger shorts as I call them, and I put the iPod away or something then looked back in my he was bending over taking his shorts of to reveal the hottest ass.

I also love Under Armour, the shirts, tights, shorts you name it, Its' just hot to see on a guy. I would love to have a boy to dress up in these. I like so many things not just leather.

Speedos my second fetish

Well, I hope you enjoyed the first fetish and this one is not too different. But my second fetish is Speedos. There is something the way the spandex fits my cock and balls and feels across my ass. I hope to get back in to shape to wear them, but I always loved wearing them to the pool and have someone rub my ass in them.

This one is very similar to my underwear fetish. I first noticed them with Greg Louganis. I used to jerk off to him in his speedos all the time. Then I would notice all the guys in speedos in the Olympics. So I would watch Diving, which gave you the best view of speedos, then swimming and water polo.

I will say before I tried them, I thought they were just underwear fitting. But boy was I wrong. I have mentioned my first time trying them on. I was just amazed how tight they were. That was the fit I had been looking for. Having a big cock and a hefty set of balls (although at the time I had no clue), I loved the support they gave me and just felt amazing. I knew I had to have a pair. I got one that was two sizes too big but it was prob when I was 18 when I got my first really great speedo. It was amazing. I was tall thin and hung. I showed and still do a great box in speedos. So I would get the looks. Which I loved showing off my cock, and some what still do. I had a few experiences of guys in speedos as well, but they have been few and far between.

I later joined the gay swim team in town and when i went I had so many speedos, that I don't think I wore the same pair twice. If I did it wasn't much. But for a year and 4x a week I swam. There was another guy on the team who did the same. We never really got to talk other then once on AOL, which tells you how long ago that was.

But this ties in to spandex which is up next. I hope you enjoy these insights. They are fun for me to do

Underwear, My First Fetish

I know just seeing this pic for some will take them back to the 80's! Well this is what I consider my very first fetish. Underwear. Before the age of 13 I wore FTL tighty whities. I hated them. They would always loose their shape and having a big package... that I didn't know till later, kept falling out. But then the Jim Palmer ads came out and I saw bikini briefs. I had no clue about them but I can't tell you how many times I jerked off to Jim in his Elance briefs. OMG, I had two or three magazines in my room and no one ever knew I jerked off to it. So this was my porn, well this and bodybuilding magazines. There was another ad I used too, the classic Calvin Klein, in just the fitted tighy whities leaning against the stone. I was in heaven.

Just seeing guys in hot skimpy underwear got me going. After a few months I had to get some. So when we went on a family shopping trip, which we did often. I went to the underwear section and my heart was beating fast. Before me was about 30 different patters, colors and styles. I was in sensory overload. I didn't know what to get. So there was a brown, blue and green pair I got. They were Brut, if anyone remembers them. They were polyester and had a lot of patterns. Every time we'd go back I'd get more. I started wearing bikinis at 13 and I didn't buy any tighty whities, till about age 22. Hell it was 19 before I got a solid pair of white undies.

Underwear become a big part of my life. I would match it to what I wore on occasion and pick out undies for certain occasions. My criteria for underwear was they had to be skimpy and hold everything in place. I hated undies that didn't. So the 80's were perfect for bikini wearing. I think just about everyone wore them at one time or another. The colors and patters were awesome. Then came the boxer brief from CK. I got them as every other gay man did and they drove me nuts. They bunched up, gave no support and I had to get rid of them. So, a few years later I sold them to a guy who wanted them for $20. Which was prob 8 bucks more then I paid for them.

Underwear became part of my sexual activities. I would wear hot pairs when I knew I was going to get lucky or going on a trick. I would ask guys if they had hot underwear. Then request they wear them. I would rub the pouch and ass and get guys off. I loved them to do it to me as well. Then I started asking for undies. If it was a particularly hot guy, I would ask for his undies and I was surprised that about 90% agreed. I guess they were flattered. I would then go home and jerk off to them remembering the encounter.

Even today if I see a guy in hot undies I go bonkers. Its just fucking awesome to me. When i meet a guy into undies its kinda like a brotherhood. When you can talk undies with another guy it's awesome. I think there are a lot more guys into undies then they let on. Cause sometimes when I talk about it they go "I Love undies too" Which when you think about it, as fetishes underwear is pretty tame.

My Domination realization

photo by Probondage2008 on Flickr

If you didn't know, I'm a relatively new Dom. I have always liked it but never acted on it. I would meet guys and thinking back, I probably did use them. I thought that's what you did. You use guys to get you off and that's it. Well, I always felt guilty after. I am graced with a conscience. Which would nag me for days after. So I put it away and thought, well I'll never be a dom. Even though I longed for it.

This year it all changed. I had a bondage experience that really unlocked my inner dom and it was like letting the genie out of the bottle. There was no putting it back in. I met one guy online who's a sub and we talked. I realized there were guys that want to serve as much as I want to be dom. It was a need in them like my need to be dom. It wasn't "I am using them and getting nothing in return." I had a great conversation with him and subsequent ones. I think lately though I have fucked it up with him. He's not returned my IM's or anything. Yeah I fucked up and do regret it but I wasn't aware what I was doing was wrong. He pointed it out and I since changed. Looking back I should have not done it but I thought I was being in the lifestyle. Oh well, that's another story, I have apologized and if he doesn't forgive me then I will move on, It wasn't a bad infraction but not going to keep apologizing about it.

I also talked to another boy, who has since moved out of the area and we had some great conversations as well. He left to be with a leather family. But both guys gave me insight to the sub side of things. It really opened my eyes. I thought a dom relationship was a hard ass dom, getting what he wanted out of a sub. The sub was a slave with no rights and no opinions. Which I didn't agree with or could live a lifestyle. Boy was i wrong on all accounts. Yes, there are guys who do that but a big amount who don't.

I then got on FetLife and found a Sir/Boy in NYC that have exactly what I want. They have a very loving relationship that is based on just that love, and the dom/sub is in there as well. So it's a mix of both. They are in the blog roll here, A master and his slave. They are an amazing couple. I have talked to the Sir and we had some great conversations. I realize that a boy has rights, as you can see by my boys bill of rights, his own opinions, and I want one to speak up when he's not happy. I don't think you can make a boy be happy when his needs aren't being met. I want to protect my boy as well, I would love to be monogamous, which Master/boy are, but wondering how easy that is to find. I think a boy should have some freedoms and you should sit down at the start of the relationship and set all the ground rules. I think it's best to cover everything and then relax as you go. I was reading about Sir/Boy in the blog. Boy is on an allowance, he gets so much every two weeks but does have a credit card for emergencies, spending outside the budget is allowed on circumstances. I think after years together the boy can make judgement calls. As long as he explains them. I would also love to tell my boy what to wear all the time. Even to work. I would follow dress codes and not embarrass him in general pubic. In a dom/sub crowd he'd have to worry about that though!

I have found that dom/sub relationships can be loving and dom at the same time. I really want to find a relationship with a boy. It's not easy to find one in Atlanta. From what I hear from others it's just tough. But, We'll see.

This blog is kinda stream of consciousness. I am dyslexic as well so if anything doesn't make sense just hit me up. I have my IM and Email here so feel free to use it.

Bondage Lesson 2: Rope and more

I had my second bondage lesson on Sunday. I meet up with Limber, as I"ll call him. And he showed me a few things that were pretty cool. The one thing I really enjoyed was his attention to safety. Which I stressed about a few things, and worry about it. But I know as I gain more experience I will gain confidence. I do realize that I need to get my own rope, but with my financial situation right now that's a little tough. I used two kinds of rope at Limbers and enjoyed the Hemp. But for solo play i"m going to use the traditional white rope that is a little bigger, for the life of me I can't remember what its called. I also have to practice some knots. I had some issues with square knots but will practice.

I got there in the afternoon. We talked for a few and got straight to work. I will remind you both guys I have right now are str8. Which I talked about before I like because the sex part of it is taken out of the equation and I'm able to concentrate on correct rope work. I do want to add in milking and cum control at some point though.  But on with the post!

The first thing I did was do  elbow and wrist restraint. I learned I have to be a little tighter in the wrists and make sure its tight but not cutting off circulation. A few times he got out of my rope. The elbow restraint was good, but I learned a little more. As you can see the red ties, he said "Sometimes you can be a lazy top and use other things to cinch the rope. So, it was pretty cool.

The next tie we did was a hog tie. This was fun to do. We just added the ankle tie with the rope going to the elbow and ankles. I have to get better on this one. I like this one but the first guy I tied up I did ok but its not very pretty. I want to do better rope work looking and know that comes in practice. This did cause a problem when he tired to get out, we had some shoulder circulation issues.

The nest thing I did was a harness. I want to learn how do to a full body harness but we did a chest harness and then some wrist restraints. Limber really liked this one and I did a good job tying him up in it. I was glad he didn't get out after 5 minutes. He said we are going to have to do it again. So that was a good sign. We did the harness with almost one piece, then did a square knot and tied two more pieces on to make it longer and then do the wrists. It was pretty cool. I was seriously impressed with the rope work.

Lastly we had just a bit of time left. So we broke out his straight jacket. I have never played with one, and it was very interesting to use. I quickly could tell I have never used one. I didn't know you put the straps under the buckle and through the loop! as you can see in this picture it's correct. Who said bondage was second nature? Then we did the leg restraints. It was one I didn't know if it would work but it did. It was a lot of fun and I got better as the day went by. We hopefully will do more this Sunday.

I hope we get Stretch as we call him to go with me and I can learn on him. He was sick and couldn't make it. One of the ties I want to do is one where the left ankle/wrist are tied together and the same with the right. It looks cool. Then I want to do the chest harness. I hope to have more lessons soon and will let you all know when it happens!

Suspension Bondage

This is really something I want to work my way up too. I know it's prob the most difficult of the bondage forms. It takes a lot of experience and work. Plus the stakes of something going wrong are elevated, literally, due to a fall. But these pics are so cool!

Rope Bondage Update

I did have about 3.5 hours of rope work today. It was really fun and I learned a lot, I just realized I have to learn to do a square knot on the first time. But I have pics, the guy teaching me wanted to see the pics and make sure nothing come out in pictures that could be incriminating. Which I understand and respect. I'll call him "limber" since he is very limber. He was able to get out of things that I know other guys wouldn't. But it makes me have to try a little bit harder.

So I took the pics with his cam and will hopefully get the pics soon and will post them. I will go into more detail then, but for the time being just know it was a fun day. And I got to use a straight jacket as well! Which was very interesting, I have never used one before and it was a learning experience.

I hope to do a lot more and learn more. I ran into one guy who's local who does suspension bondage and it looks cool, we'll see, I friended him on fetlife and hope I get to chat some. Stay tuned for more. This blog has been a good release for me and I plan to do a lot more!

Rope session today

I"m about to leave to have a rope session with a buddy. It's a learning lesson and I can't wait. It's going to be roughly a three hour session. I have found two str8 guys who love bondage and the one today is a switch and we are going to do some fun things. The other one is sick and hope he can join us soon.

I am liking having str8 guys to practice on. It take the whole sex aspect out of the situation and I can concentrate on learning rope. Which I really like. I met this guy last Sunday for coffee and I think he's pretty cool. I hope we can be friends and I can learn a lot more. I hope he'll let me take a few pictures today and I will post them tonight if get them!

Stay tuned for more about the session!

To Leather or Not To Leather

One thing you may notice is to me, the BDSM lifestyle is not about all leather. I don't think you have to own leather to be a part of it. Granted I have some leather, a harness and jock. Which I love, to me I like to mix things up. I don't like doing the same scene over and over. In fact I am one of those people who doesn't like having the same thing for breakfast for more then a week.

I think leather is hot. I always have, my only down side is its expensive as fuck! Well the good stuff is and I have had experience with cheap leather and have come to the conclusion that you have to pay for good stuff and go for quality.  But I hear a few of you out there going, "Yeah man, but other gear is just as expensive" You are correct, it is but I have been into it way longer. I got into leather when I was with my ex in 1995. We went to a leather store here in Atlanta and I got a harness. The guy fit me for it and I instantly got hard. Which being 8+cut it was noticeable. My now ex, got turned on that I was hard and leaking when we did it. Then I got a cheap pair of chaps, is say this because the buckle broke, and I have since sold them to a friend. Plus I have out grown them. Meaning that was when I was a 32 waist and could pull off the twink look (I may have had the look but never had the attitude, thank god). Now I"m a tall beefy guy. Which I like being beefy I just want to tone up and be more muscle bear. I would love some chaps and more boots but since I have been a victim of the wonderful economy I have to wait on that and other gear.

I have many gear interests. I use the term gear for a lack of better word, because some of them are not traditional gear. Note a lot of the pics are of the twinky/slim boys. I have tried to find some beefy/stocky guys in gear but its been a chore.

Underwear
Underwear was my first "Fetish" for a lack of better word. I grew up in the 80's and would always jerk off to underwear pic and bodybuilding magazines. I remember having a few of the Jim Palmer Jockey Elance ads stashed under the bed for those "exploration" times when you are a teen and had to calm those hormones. I can't tell you the times I jerked off to Jim or some hot bodybuilder. This is the formation of my underwear fetish. I love briefs, thongs and jocks the best. Boxer briefs and trunks are good if they are tight. I can't stand loose ones, and boxers are OUT. I have had a love affair with underwear for almost 30 years. I got my first pair of bikini briefs when I was 13 and haven't looked back. 


Speedos

Well, speedos kinda go hand in hand with undies. I was really into undies and then the Olympics happened and I noticed all the guys in speedos for swimming, diving and water polo. I had to get a pair. There used to be a sporting goods store at the mall. When I was 15, I went in, walked around the store and saw my prey. It was a rack of different colored solid speedos. So I grabbed two and probably ran to the fitting room. I tried them on and got so horny. I didn't stay long and left them in the fitting room. But it was prob another year before i got one. It was one that was way too big, I was a 32 waist and just grabbed one and it was a 36. LOL it was a baggy speedo on me but still hot to me! I remember it was purple and pretty hot, had I gotten the right size. Then as I got older, I started wearing them in public and had drawers and drawers. When I used to swim for the gay swim team, I don't think I wore the same pair twice. Now i"m trying to get back in shape to wear them. 

Lycra/Spandex

This again is another Teen age thing. In the late 80's is when spandex really got big! I remember when guys would wear bike shorts just to wear them. I don't think guys would do it today, but back then it was awesome. I saw a football player, a beefy muscular one in bike shorts and I swear I could have shot my load right there. He had this big bulge, might I add no undies under them, you could see his cock, balls and everything. So, I got a pair of bike shorts. Which quickly managed to morph it into singlets, running tights, shirts and UnderArmour has been fucking awesome! So now I love everything spandex and one of my biggest fantasies is super hero play. I want my boy to be the hero and me be the villain, tie him up and seduce him to the dark side. I would love uniforms and masks for this. 

Suits

I really am not sure where my suit "fetish" came from. But seeing a clean cut guy in a suit drives me wild. I guess its the whole conservative thing. I have found most conservative boys tend to be big kinksters in bed. I had a guy I went out with a long time ago and he put on a tux he had for a wedding and I wore a suit and we fucked good! it was hot. I like traditional suits and tux. Some of my favorite things for a guy in a suit are: lace up shoes like wing tips (I don't like loafers with suits), suspenders that button, bow ties (bow ties are cool!) and real ones not clip on, undershirt under dress shirt, colored dress shirts although something to be said for a white shirt. And ties that match undies (oh yeah hot undies are mandatory in suits no tighy whities or boxers). 

Cowboy Gear

This is one I got into because I think I looked hot in it. I got involved with the gay rodeo association for a while and got the hat, boots, big ass buckle, tight wranglers and Garth Brooks shirts. I filled out very well. I had many people go, "You are just into  the rodeo, it looks like you have always worn the gear" Meaning i looked like I grew up and was 100% comfortable in it. I love it to this day. Although I don't fit in my wrangs but everything else I have. Boots with a jock and cowboy hat, I"m in heaven! I usually wear a 2xist thong under my wrangs to show off the crotch. It takes what I have and really enhances it! The best example of this was, I was at the GA Dome here in Atlanta for a PBR event (Professional Bull Riders) and was leaning against the wall, with one foot on the wall. A guy walked by with his arm around his girl, Looked me in the eye, looked down at my crotch and then back up to me and kept walking. I was like hell yeah. 

Baseball Gear

I love sports gear cause I was a band geek and never was a jock, well that's my on self diagnosis for my love of it. I have a Braves Uniform, pants, jersey, cleats and sox. I got the pants off ebay. I have both white and grey. I love it. I can't fit in them right now, but I'm working on it. Just going to an MLB game gets me going. Seeing hot guys in tight pants adjusting themselves LOL, well its not that but I really enjoy games. I want to get catchers gear as well.  Plus in baseball gear you have the compression shorts and cup and jock under it. My favorite cup jock is UnderAmour. It just fits awesome. Although I have issues with the new Bike cups. They tend to run small for me. I have an older one I have and will keep, but the new ones just don't give enough room. I have worn cups all day and have no problem with daily wear.

Football Gear

This is probably my newest gear interest. I have always loved football gear. Back in 2005 or so an online buddy sent me some gear he had, which included a few pairs of football pants and such. I was in heaven. I then started to search for shoulder pads. Which are expensive as fuck. Even used ones on ebay were going for 100 bucks. Which is expensive for play gear. A buddy told me about Football America. They are a football gear store, not for fetish gear but for actual play gear. I searched the football pads and found a pair that would fit me new for $39 bucks. I was like I Must have these. So I ordered them and now I have them. So I have pants, some pads, underarmour shirt, and pads. I don't have a full uniform yet. I really want one with helmet but its fucking expensive, It think more so then leather. But, I will get them in time. The football uniforms I want are: Georgia Tech, Texas Longhorns, Clemson, and either an Army or Navy one. I don't know of a pro team I like.

Sneakers

Last is not really gear but something I have gotten into the last year. I love sneakers on a guy. I keep noticing them on a guy. I was out yesterday and there was a younger guy, you know the hot muscle boy who spends all summer either on the boat or bya pool, tan wearing cargos, tight t and then some really hot sneakers with ankle sox. I was like DAMN. I have been looking more and more at guys feet. Now i don't have a foot fetish, but I love sneakers. I don't want to sniff, lick or anything like that. I saw a pic online the other day that was a guy, just in sneakers and ankle sox, jerking off while sitting in a chair and i loved it. I have always loved guys being nude except for sneakers. I want Pumas bad. My current collection are New Balance, Nike and such. I want to grow the collection.

This is just an insight to my gear fetishes. I hope you enjoyed it and any boys should know you will be put in any of this and underwear is BIG with me so.... I am loving this format and I am kinda unknown. It allows me a safe place to share my thoughts and ideas. I know a few out there know me but I hope you are enjoying this so far.... more to come!

I am a Butt Man

I admit it, I love a nice round bubble butt. I always have, and being a top, I guess it only comes natural. The butt above to me is perfect with a great set of legs to match. You can have a bubble butt but lack the legs to really show it off. I remember the first time I got a bubble butt. I was like a kid in a candystore. The first thing I did was just rub it and touch it. I couldn't believe I had one in my hands. Then I slid the underwear off the ass and rubbed it even more and down the crack. I hadn't had much experience rimming yet so I know I didn't do that ass justice, but still, I had to get down there and part those cheeks and give it the old college try as they way.

After years of practice, I know my way around an ass, especially for rimming. I consider it to be one of my best sexual talents. I hate to see rimming where it's  a quick lick and that's it. I like to really get in there, get my tongue up there and drive the btm crazy. I love to hear them moan and try to get tongue further up their ass. OMG, it's the best ever. I wasn't always into it like that, I had an ex who loved it and then I caught the fever.

I had a top a few years ago, he'd come sit on my face for no less then an hour. I kid you not and I would eat him out and he loved it. I never fucked him but he would ride my tongue. I asked him why he wanted just that? "I'm a top and I usually eat guys ass but they never eat mine. I don't like toys, fingers or a cock in my ass just a tongue, and it takes another top man to get in there and eat an ass" He had a smoking ass so I didn't mind at all.

Here are a few more hot asses.

I know this isn't about bondage, domination or anything but it gives you a better understanding about me. I will post more about me right now. I don't have a face pic on here yet, but I"m sure one is coming never fear.

What Kind of Boy Do I Want?

Well, it has been a long thought process to what I want in a boy. When I thought of Dom/Sub relationships in the past I thought the sir was in charge and the boy did what ever, no matter what, and the boy only reflected his sir. Which I knew wasn't for me. I guess I could be considered a some what romantic dom guy. I also have come to realize that just because a boy submits doesn't mean he stops having his own opinions, hopes and dreams. I don't think I could date a guy who didn't.

The qualities I want in my boy are:

1. Intelligent. I want a boy who's very smart in what ever he does. He can hold a conversation about numerous subjects and teaches me things as well. He's well spoken, thoughtful and can make judgment calls when needed
2. Ambitious - I want a boy who has a career and wants to excel in it. I don't care what that is, hell it could be fast food management, but as long as it's his passion I will support him. I don't mind having a boy who's discovering his passion and send him back to school to get it. 
3. Humorous - I want a boy who makes me laugh. I love to laugh and cut up and want a boy who's my partner in crime at times.
4. Neat and organized - I am not those things so I want a boy who can start off by picking up after me and then discovering a system to keep me organized. It is something we would work on together
5. Versatileboy - I don't think I could date a total btm. I have been reading "the Master and His Slave" blog and when I read that the sir restrained the boy, sat on his face then sat on his cock and rode him till the sir got off. I thought that was so hot. I do like to btm from time to time and would want this option.
6. Very level headed - I want a boy that's level headed and doesn't have a bad temper. I can't stand boys or anyone who just go off on someone. I don't put up with it and I won't stand for it. I know respect is earned by a boy will never earn mine if he has a bad temper. 
7. Guy next door type - Well this is my only physical requirement i have. I love boys who look like the guy next door and no one would ever figure they would be into this. This is not set in stone, but it's definitely a like. 
8. Have his own opinions - A boy should have his own opinions and should stick up for his rights. I don't think boys should be walked over and boys should say when something is wrong. I expect my boy to let me know when he's unhappy, sad, or in general whats going on with him, honest and open. With out it there will be no relationship. 
9. Mature - I had the chance to be a long distance sir for a boy. He just turned 18, although the age kept changing when i talked to him so, I wasn't sure. He was a teen and liked to play the "But I won't want to" game. Which I"m not even going to do. You be willing to come into this, with ground rules set and go from there. None of this pouting or whining. It's not what I want. If that's your thing, then I say have fun but it's not for me. 

All of these are subject to change as I grow, but I doubt they will too much. I really want to have a Dom/Sub relationship. I just have this urge to dom and do it in a loving way. I am super impressed by the "Master And His Slave" they really have a lot of what I want in a relationship. I have taken the questions from them as well so you'll see an area to ask questions so feel free to ask. I'd love to do them on a reg basis. 

I am having a bondage session this weekend, with two str8 guys but I will get to learn the basics and more advanced. I will have pictures and will share that experience with you soon@

I have a Bondage Buddy

This past Friday I got the pleasure to meet my new bondage buddy in person. I met him at Starbucks and we hung out and talked for about 45 mins or so. He's a married guy, who's wife knows about this, and is extremely tall. I'm 6'4" and he's taller the me! Plus he's a really great guy too. We talked about bondage and things in general.

One thing we talked about was no sex during bondage. Which I"m totally fine with, I want a guy I can learn on and gain more experience. I feel bondage is more then just getting off. Its the connection the two people share. So, this is perfectly acceptable. We talked about a lot of the ground rules and we both agreed. It's a good match for us.

I will also be getting some pictures out of it as well. He has agreed to pictures as long as his face is not shown. Which I responded to him, the face is not the important thing in bondage pictures. So, as soon as I can get another lesson, I will take him with me and you will see some of the work!

Safe and Sane.... NOT?

Ok, I have to vent a little here. I totally believe in safe and sane play. That includes safe sex and safety in any scene going on. I think thats a given for me. I feel best about this. If you see the Boy’s Bill of Rights, you will see I fully believe this. 

The one thing I have noticed is that so many in the BDSM community either don’t believe in safety in play or scenes. Or better yet some don’t care about both. 

The reason for this post is I know a boy and asked him to be my toy to learn more in depth bondage. I told him everything was safe and sane and thats when he said he preferred bareback and such. I was like WHOA! I prefer other guys who play safe. One reason is you never know who has something or b if you have something. It’s best for everyone. I don’t waiver on this belief. It’s a condom or no anal PERIOD. Non-negotiable! 

I’ve heard many stories about it, and wonder why it’s so prevalent with guys online. I’m not saying as a community it’s out of control. But the guys I have talked to online have been into either unsafe sex or play. 

To me bondage is a way to literally bond with the boy. Its slow and you take your time and you have contact. It’s not tie a boy up and leave him for a long time. I like edging and milking and make it an experience for both of us. I get off on knowing the boy is enjoying the experience. I had an experience just recently where it wasn’t about sex but about the restraints. I didn’t even get off but it was one of the best I ever had! I loved restraining him, seeing him struggle and try to get out. After I untied him, he told me I did really good rope work! (You will read about that in this blog). 

If anyone can shed some light on this, I would appreciate it. I just don’t get it. But for any boy who plays with me you know the rules and there are no way around them! 

Big Week for me

I am not good at updating this, so I guess i need a boy to keep up the blog! It would be nice. I run a personal blog, an underwear blog, a geeky blog and a professional blog. So by the time it comes to doing more personal stuff here and my other personal blog I am tapped out.

Last Tuesday I met a friend's Sir to teach me some rope work. I was super excited about going and learning, but a little nervous. But i had talked to this sir and he was very nice and laid back. We talked on the phone a few times to that put me at ease. The week before I had been offered an "educational" session and the guy wanted me to be the boy and demanded I do what he tells me with out safe words and that just didn't sound right to me. I didn't want to put myself in that situation without knowing someone, so I declined.

I got to his loft and we sat and talked for about 15 minutes or so, about all sorts of things not just bondage. Then we started with some basic rope skills. Which I discovered was much easier then I thought. I was shown two ways to restrain boys. Both were easy and very safe. He demonstrated on me and then I tried it on him. I felt very comfortable and it really helped me a lot. This is what I needed a mentor to show me some things and then let me go off my own and experiment. Which seems to be easier then done. I placed an ad on Craigs List to find a boy to take with me and have me practice on him next time. But, we went on for about an hour or so doing rope. There is so much to learn but I got a solid foundation.

Later that day, a guy answered a post I had on CL from like a month ago. It was about sneakers and he liked to get tied up in his jock and sneaks. Which I had to do it and go see this guy. The only down side is he wasn't into me, but wanted me to him up, as i did. I used the skills I learned earlier in the day. The first tie session was ropes around the chest, mid session and above the knees and he couldn't get out. He seriously was impressed with my rope work. He couldn't get out.

The next set he wanted to be hog tied and I hadn't done it so I don't think I did well but he seemed to like it. I tied his wrists first, then his knees, and finally his ankles. THen took a rope and tied the feet and wrists together. At this point he complimented me on my rope skills. Which was awesome, then he said he liked it tighter, So I got the rope and pulled it tighter. The hog tie was good in practice but visually it wasn't, but he enjoyed it. We then parted ways and I got to keep his jock as present for doing good work. Well I told him to give it to me and as a good boy he did.

He is very close to me and a bi jock boy and was a little cocky, I would have loved to have broken his attitude and made him a boy, but he was more into the sexual side and wasn't into me. Then on the way home he texted me to come back and jerk him off, which I would have declined had I gotten it. This was a one time experience and I am looking for a boy.

I have met some good guys lately and hope to meet more. If you are reading this feel free to contact me at atlantadom2010(at)gmail(dot)com

Boys Bill of Rights

Every boy who has reconciled his submissive nature with the societal pressures of masculine independence deserves to be proud of himself.

It takes more balls to abdicate those conventions and submit to the right guy than it does to homogenize and gentrify your sexual and emotional needs.

That pride can and must be fostered by a Dom, Big Brother, or Sir with a firm hand, a sharp mind, and a good heart.

In response to too many phone calls I've received recently from boys in distress, I've drafted the following bill of boys' rights. If you're in support of securing and fostering a boy's development and pride in his submission, make yourself heard.

The boys' Bill of Rights:

1. Every boy has the right to have his body, intellect, and emotions protected by his Dom.
2. Every boy has the right to choose the man whom he serves and to discontinue that service and take his leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.
3. Every boy has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in his submission.
4. Every boy has the right to protected sex if he so wishes.
5. Every boy has the right to privacy if he so wishes. No boy can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without his expressed desire to be so.
6. Every boy has the right to defend himself from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
7. Every boy has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.
8. Every boy has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other subs and Doms without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.
9. Every boy has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.
10. Every boy has the right to protect his own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.

SIRS: Refer to this profile or copy and paste this Bill of Rights into your own if you wish to let subs know how you feel about their rights.

subs, boys, and pups: Refer to this profile or include the Bill in your own and take a stand against boys and abuse.

-LaboursLost

This was written by LaboursLost on Recon and a great guy on top of that. I firmly believe in this and I hope it will spread and more will take it to heart. This will cut down on many of the Transgressions on boys, for a lack of better word.

For me, I want a smart boy with wishes and hopes for the future, not a mindless drone. I want a boy that tells me he's unhappy, or that something is wrong, but respectfully and sincere. This is perfect for me. I plan to write more about my perfect boy soon!

Welcome to my Jouney

I have started this blog to share my journey into becoming a dom in the DBSM world. It's something I have always thought about but never really let myself get into it. I have always put up wall as to why I can't do it. The first one is I look younger then I am and appear to be very vanilla. This has kept me back for a long time, but after talking to many folks on the site FetLife, I realized that there are a whole group of people who love the understated Dom, so that gave me a renewed vigor!

I also had a great bondage experience that really woke something in me, realizing this is really what I want. I have had the relationships based on equals, but I love telling my partner what to wear, what to do in bed and such, and when you are in an equal relationship it doesn't work very well.

The last break through I had was I always felt bad about using a boy. I felt I was using someone for my own use and it made me feel bad, but after talking to some boys, I realize that if you are good to them, they have the same desire to serve as I have to be served. So its basically a win win for both of us.

This is a quick overview of me and I plan to go into more detail about what I like, some of my fantasies and my experiences through my journey.

PS The pic on the post if off the net