Bondage Lesson 4, and My Charleston Trip

Well I had lesson 4. Which I found out I"m getting better and better at bondage. Which I"m very happy that I am improving. Sometimes I felt like I wasn't. This time me and limber were joined by Tallboy. My firend who's 6'8'. Which it was awesome to tie up a taller guy. We got him in a hog tie first with a harness and ankles tied up. He was there for a bit. Then we tied up his writs and ankles. He was there a bit but being married he couldn't stay out too long. He did text me this am saying he had a blast. Which I did too. Then after he left, I finally did a tie that limber couldn't get out of. I was so happy!

We are having a break for a bit, he's traveling and so am I, but the other sir teaching me will be back next week and I hope to go over there. So it will be spuratic, but I have found some gay boys to practice on. One when I go to Charleston, he's a kinda beefy shorter guy, which I love and he's new to being a sub. He's going to come to my hotel room and submit. Which is going to be awesome. We chatted this morning and he's already been instructed what to wear, he's going to buy some undies and spandex for me. I can't wait for this. It's going to be awesome, and he comes to town once a month. I need a reg boy.

I also ran across another boy local who I've talked too, he's into spandex suits and we plan to meet up. He's another beefy boy and very submissive. I have sort of run into a lot of gay boys lately. Lastly, is another local guy who's total sub and very cute. He's wanting motivation with work out goals and will start hiking with me as well. We are meeting on Friday.

So far things are going well. I'll keep you posted. I hope to blog more I just haven't been in the mood but I gotta finish the fetishes.

One of My Fantasies - The Biz Exec

You have seen my fetishes and I will continue to tell you about them over the next week. But, I saw a guy on Dudes Nude yesterday that really brought one of my fantasies back, its the dominating the Biz Exec. You know the type, Type A personality, very demanding, basically a pain in the ass type. These are the people I hate working for, so this fantasy is perfect. 

You know the type, the always motivated, the "In it to Win it" type. Just over the top and wants to be successful at anything he does. He demands more from everyone around him and they are usually cocky as hell. Thinking they are awesome and can do no wrong. 

Well this is the man I want to dominate and tie up. Some of them, not sure how many, love to come home and not have to think about anything and have the Dom take charge. As you know I love a man in a suit and most wear them tailored ot them and usually look fucking amazing on them. 

One of my favorite role plays I've ever done is employee and boss. But its not like you'd expect. Its where the exec calls me into the office and starts going off on how bad I'm doing, how he's going to fire me, etc, you know the usual "we're about to fire you" speech. Then I say you're not going to fire me, and he starts to laugh, then I something like "I've seen the way you've stared at my crotch, and how bad you want to see what's in my pants" As I grab my crotch. He protests and i say well you go in the bathroom when I go, you groped me at the xmas party and stuff like that. He then knows he's busted and tries to get out of it. I stand, grab my crotch and say, I"n not fired you will suck my fucking cock. He laughs, and I walk around the desk, grab his head and shove it in my crotch. He playfully pulls away but then really goes and rubs his face on my crotch. Then I pull my cock out and he licks it like a lollypop, What he doesn't know I start taking pics with my cell phone. He keeps sucking me and pulls out his cock from his suit and he jerks as sucks me, I shoot on his face. 

We sit back down and he says "Even though that happened I'm still going to have to fire you" I pull out the cell and show him the pics and say you fire me I sue for sexual harassment" He looks at me with fright, and I say "I stay hired and you give me a raise, and you keep sucking me or HR and your wife finds out"

Thats just a fantasy. I would love to do some bondage with an exec in his suit. Would I do long term with an exec? I don't know but short term play would be awesome. Men in suits are just fucking HOT. 

Bondage Lesson 2: Rope and more

I had my second bondage lesson on Sunday. I meet up with Limber, as I"ll call him. And he showed me a few things that were pretty cool. The one thing I really enjoyed was his attention to safety. Which I stressed about a few things, and worry about it. But I know as I gain more experience I will gain confidence. I do realize that I need to get my own rope, but with my financial situation right now that's a little tough. I used two kinds of rope at Limbers and enjoyed the Hemp. But for solo play i"m going to use the traditional white rope that is a little bigger, for the life of me I can't remember what its called. I also have to practice some knots. I had some issues with square knots but will practice.

I got there in the afternoon. We talked for a few and got straight to work. I will remind you both guys I have right now are str8. Which I talked about before I like because the sex part of it is taken out of the equation and I'm able to concentrate on correct rope work. I do want to add in milking and cum control at some point though.  But on with the post!

The first thing I did was do  elbow and wrist restraint. I learned I have to be a little tighter in the wrists and make sure its tight but not cutting off circulation. A few times he got out of my rope. The elbow restraint was good, but I learned a little more. As you can see the red ties, he said "Sometimes you can be a lazy top and use other things to cinch the rope. So, it was pretty cool.

The next tie we did was a hog tie. This was fun to do. We just added the ankle tie with the rope going to the elbow and ankles. I have to get better on this one. I like this one but the first guy I tied up I did ok but its not very pretty. I want to do better rope work looking and know that comes in practice. This did cause a problem when he tired to get out, we had some shoulder circulation issues.

The nest thing I did was a harness. I want to learn how do to a full body harness but we did a chest harness and then some wrist restraints. Limber really liked this one and I did a good job tying him up in it. I was glad he didn't get out after 5 minutes. He said we are going to have to do it again. So that was a good sign. We did the harness with almost one piece, then did a square knot and tied two more pieces on to make it longer and then do the wrists. It was pretty cool. I was seriously impressed with the rope work.

Lastly we had just a bit of time left. So we broke out his straight jacket. I have never played with one, and it was very interesting to use. I quickly could tell I have never used one. I didn't know you put the straps under the buckle and through the loop! as you can see in this picture it's correct. Who said bondage was second nature? Then we did the leg restraints. It was one I didn't know if it would work but it did. It was a lot of fun and I got better as the day went by. We hopefully will do more this Sunday.

I hope we get Stretch as we call him to go with me and I can learn on him. He was sick and couldn't make it. One of the ties I want to do is one where the left ankle/wrist are tied together and the same with the right. It looks cool. Then I want to do the chest harness. I hope to have more lessons soon and will let you all know when it happens!

Rope Bondage Update

I did have about 3.5 hours of rope work today. It was really fun and I learned a lot, I just realized I have to learn to do a square knot on the first time. But I have pics, the guy teaching me wanted to see the pics and make sure nothing come out in pictures that could be incriminating. Which I understand and respect. I'll call him "limber" since he is very limber. He was able to get out of things that I know other guys wouldn't. But it makes me have to try a little bit harder.

So I took the pics with his cam and will hopefully get the pics soon and will post them. I will go into more detail then, but for the time being just know it was a fun day. And I got to use a straight jacket as well! Which was very interesting, I have never used one before and it was a learning experience.

I hope to do a lot more and learn more. I ran into one guy who's local who does suspension bondage and it looks cool, we'll see, I friended him on fetlife and hope I get to chat some. Stay tuned for more. This blog has been a good release for me and I plan to do a lot more!

Rope session today

I"m about to leave to have a rope session with a buddy. It's a learning lesson and I can't wait. It's going to be roughly a three hour session. I have found two str8 guys who love bondage and the one today is a switch and we are going to do some fun things. The other one is sick and hope he can join us soon.

I am liking having str8 guys to practice on. It take the whole sex aspect out of the situation and I can concentrate on learning rope. Which I really like. I met this guy last Sunday for coffee and I think he's pretty cool. I hope we can be friends and I can learn a lot more. I hope he'll let me take a few pictures today and I will post them tonight if get them!

Stay tuned for more about the session!

Boys Bill of Rights

Every boy who has reconciled his submissive nature with the societal pressures of masculine independence deserves to be proud of himself.

It takes more balls to abdicate those conventions and submit to the right guy than it does to homogenize and gentrify your sexual and emotional needs.

That pride can and must be fostered by a Dom, Big Brother, or Sir with a firm hand, a sharp mind, and a good heart.

In response to too many phone calls I've received recently from boys in distress, I've drafted the following bill of boys' rights. If you're in support of securing and fostering a boy's development and pride in his submission, make yourself heard.

The boys' Bill of Rights:

1. Every boy has the right to have his body, intellect, and emotions protected by his Dom.
2. Every boy has the right to choose the man whom he serves and to discontinue that service and take his leave without being subjected to physical, mental, or emotional abuse.
3. Every boy has the right to be cared for, disciplined appropriately, and allowed to feel pride in his submission.
4. Every boy has the right to protected sex if he so wishes.
5. Every boy has the right to privacy if he so wishes. No boy can be blackmailed, publicly humiliated, or physically coerced into service without his expressed desire to be so.
6. Every boy has the right to defend himself from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
7. Every boy has the right to consent or not to consent to sexual activities.
8. Every boy has the right to seek refuge, counsel, and advice from other subs and Doms without the expectation of sex, money, or any other service in return.
9. Every boy has the right to a physically and emotionally available circle of friends.
10. Every boy has the right to protect his own possessions and finances against intercession, theft, and non-consensual acquisition.

SIRS: Refer to this profile or copy and paste this Bill of Rights into your own if you wish to let subs know how you feel about their rights.

subs, boys, and pups: Refer to this profile or include the Bill in your own and take a stand against boys and abuse.

-LaboursLost

This was written by LaboursLost on Recon and a great guy on top of that. I firmly believe in this and I hope it will spread and more will take it to heart. This will cut down on many of the Transgressions on boys, for a lack of better word.

For me, I want a smart boy with wishes and hopes for the future, not a mindless drone. I want a boy that tells me he's unhappy, or that something is wrong, but respectfully and sincere. This is perfect for me. I plan to write more about my perfect boy soon!

Welcome to my Jouney

I have started this blog to share my journey into becoming a dom in the DBSM world. It's something I have always thought about but never really let myself get into it. I have always put up wall as to why I can't do it. The first one is I look younger then I am and appear to be very vanilla. This has kept me back for a long time, but after talking to many folks on the site FetLife, I realized that there are a whole group of people who love the understated Dom, so that gave me a renewed vigor!

I also had a great bondage experience that really woke something in me, realizing this is really what I want. I have had the relationships based on equals, but I love telling my partner what to wear, what to do in bed and such, and when you are in an equal relationship it doesn't work very well.

The last break through I had was I always felt bad about using a boy. I felt I was using someone for my own use and it made me feel bad, but after talking to some boys, I realize that if you are good to them, they have the same desire to serve as I have to be served. So its basically a win win for both of us.

This is a quick overview of me and I plan to go into more detail about what I like, some of my fantasies and my experiences through my journey.

PS The pic on the post if off the net