Safe and Sane.... NOT?

Ok, I have to vent a little here. I totally believe in safe and sane play. That includes safe sex and safety in any scene going on. I think thats a given for me. I feel best about this. If you see the Boy’s Bill of Rights, you will see I fully believe this. 

The one thing I have noticed is that so many in the BDSM community either don’t believe in safety in play or scenes. Or better yet some don’t care about both. 

The reason for this post is I know a boy and asked him to be my toy to learn more in depth bondage. I told him everything was safe and sane and thats when he said he preferred bareback and such. I was like WHOA! I prefer other guys who play safe. One reason is you never know who has something or b if you have something. It’s best for everyone. I don’t waiver on this belief. It’s a condom or no anal PERIOD. Non-negotiable! 

I’ve heard many stories about it, and wonder why it’s so prevalent with guys online. I’m not saying as a community it’s out of control. But the guys I have talked to online have been into either unsafe sex or play. 

To me bondage is a way to literally bond with the boy. Its slow and you take your time and you have contact. It’s not tie a boy up and leave him for a long time. I like edging and milking and make it an experience for both of us. I get off on knowing the boy is enjoying the experience. I had an experience just recently where it wasn’t about sex but about the restraints. I didn’t even get off but it was one of the best I ever had! I loved restraining him, seeing him struggle and try to get out. After I untied him, he told me I did really good rope work! (You will read about that in this blog). 

If anyone can shed some light on this, I would appreciate it. I just don’t get it. But for any boy who plays with me you know the rules and there are no way around them!