Bondage Lesson 3 Part 1

This is just a preview of the lesson. But I found out some things, I need to make my rope work tighter. I get it too slack. Also, I did some plastic wrap bondage. OMG I loved this, its amazing. It was so much fun and I really loved it. Its just a fun fun way to do it. I can think of this with edging and milking. But it's cheap and fun. I hope to do this a lot more then I did. I am looking forward to meeting more bondage boys!

I will have pics, only three this time and will let you know about it when I get pics!

One of My Fantasies - The Biz Exec

You have seen my fetishes and I will continue to tell you about them over the next week. But, I saw a guy on Dudes Nude yesterday that really brought one of my fantasies back, its the dominating the Biz Exec. You know the type, Type A personality, very demanding, basically a pain in the ass type. These are the people I hate working for, so this fantasy is perfect. 

You know the type, the always motivated, the "In it to Win it" type. Just over the top and wants to be successful at anything he does. He demands more from everyone around him and they are usually cocky as hell. Thinking they are awesome and can do no wrong. 

Well this is the man I want to dominate and tie up. Some of them, not sure how many, love to come home and not have to think about anything and have the Dom take charge. As you know I love a man in a suit and most wear them tailored ot them and usually look fucking amazing on them. 

One of my favorite role plays I've ever done is employee and boss. But its not like you'd expect. Its where the exec calls me into the office and starts going off on how bad I'm doing, how he's going to fire me, etc, you know the usual "we're about to fire you" speech. Then I say you're not going to fire me, and he starts to laugh, then I something like "I've seen the way you've stared at my crotch, and how bad you want to see what's in my pants" As I grab my crotch. He protests and i say well you go in the bathroom when I go, you groped me at the xmas party and stuff like that. He then knows he's busted and tries to get out of it. I stand, grab my crotch and say, I"n not fired you will suck my fucking cock. He laughs, and I walk around the desk, grab his head and shove it in my crotch. He playfully pulls away but then really goes and rubs his face on my crotch. Then I pull my cock out and he licks it like a lollypop, What he doesn't know I start taking pics with my cell phone. He keeps sucking me and pulls out his cock from his suit and he jerks as sucks me, I shoot on his face. 

We sit back down and he says "Even though that happened I'm still going to have to fire you" I pull out the cell and show him the pics and say you fire me I sue for sexual harassment" He looks at me with fright, and I say "I stay hired and you give me a raise, and you keep sucking me or HR and your wife finds out"

Thats just a fantasy. I would love to do some bondage with an exec in his suit. Would I do long term with an exec? I don't know but short term play would be awesome. Men in suits are just fucking HOT. 

Spandex, my third fetish

I will say I have a lot of fetishes. Well I wouldn't call them fetishes, more like extreme likes. According to most fetishes are needed to get off. I don't need anything to get off too other then my hand and imagination.  But this blog is letting all my kink out and it's been so much fun doing it. It's like I get to talk to people who understand and I am really loving it. I thought the pic above kinda added to my spandex and sports gear fetish.

I know when my spandex fetish happened. It was the late 80's when spandex really got big. I was on the school bus on the way home, I had to been no later then the 11th grade, and saw one of the football jocks standing on the sidewalk, in blue and red bike shorts and crop t-shirt. I thought OMG, I swear I prob got boned up right there. It was amazing. I had to get me some spandex. So, as it would be, I worked right next to a sporting good store and I went over there before work and bought some spandex. At the time and me being 16, it was a lot of money to spend but I didn't care. I got a pair of Speedo bike shorts type swimwear with purple on one side and white and black horizontal stripes on the other side. Then I got a pair of running tights. All in all it was prob 60-70 bucks but when the teenage horny mind has to have something, well price knows no limits. I ran back to my car and put them in the car and under the stairs. I went to work and for the next 4 hours they were the only things I could think about. And time just drug on and on.. OMG, I thought it would never end. But I got off work and drove the 30 mins home. I now had to figure out how to get them in the house. I grabbed them in the bag and just ran in the house. I don't think I stopped. I went to my room and immediately striped down. I was hard in an instant and having 8c, it's not easy to hide, so i was glad it waited till I got naked. I pulled on the Speedo shorts first and just felt them on my body. My cock just straining in them. I was leaking all over them. After a few I pulled them off and put on the running tights. They were strange to put on, it was similar to panty hose to me, you had to pull them up. It felt weird. Also these had a liner, which I haven't seen since. Again my cock strained. I pulled them off and laid on my bed and jerked off. I couldn't believe I had two pairs of spandex. The part I think killed me was no one saw me in them for prob two more years.

My fetish continued until I got in to singlets. I have seen them in High School and had to have one. This was prob when I was 18 or 19. There was a local store that sold them, I went up to it and bought three. One blue, one red and one reversible made out of nylon. I actually still have all of these, its hard to believe. I have wrestled in them a few times, which I'm not a fan of submission wrestling, erotic yes, actually wrestling not so much.

I have since discovered more and more guys into it. Things like the Skin Tight parties in NYC and other cities proved it. I wish I was in better shape to wear it now. I will be just have to focus. My current spandex obsession are UnderArmour and Biking Gear. There is a popular biking trail near me that always has bikers in their biking spandex shorts and shirts. I went bike shopping a few years ago and went to a bike shop on the trail and when I was in the parking lot. I was sitting, a guy pulled the bike off his bike rack. Was getting it ready, he was wearing, baggy gym shorts or doinger shorts as I call them, and I put the iPod away or something then looked back in my he was bending over taking his shorts of to reveal the hottest ass.

I also love Under Armour, the shirts, tights, shorts you name it, Its' just hot to see on a guy. I would love to have a boy to dress up in these. I like so many things not just leather.

Speedos my second fetish

Well, I hope you enjoyed the first fetish and this one is not too different. But my second fetish is Speedos. There is something the way the spandex fits my cock and balls and feels across my ass. I hope to get back in to shape to wear them, but I always loved wearing them to the pool and have someone rub my ass in them.

This one is very similar to my underwear fetish. I first noticed them with Greg Louganis. I used to jerk off to him in his speedos all the time. Then I would notice all the guys in speedos in the Olympics. So I would watch Diving, which gave you the best view of speedos, then swimming and water polo.

I will say before I tried them, I thought they were just underwear fitting. But boy was I wrong. I have mentioned my first time trying them on. I was just amazed how tight they were. That was the fit I had been looking for. Having a big cock and a hefty set of balls (although at the time I had no clue), I loved the support they gave me and just felt amazing. I knew I had to have a pair. I got one that was two sizes too big but it was prob when I was 18 when I got my first really great speedo. It was amazing. I was tall thin and hung. I showed and still do a great box in speedos. So I would get the looks. Which I loved showing off my cock, and some what still do. I had a few experiences of guys in speedos as well, but they have been few and far between.

I later joined the gay swim team in town and when i went I had so many speedos, that I don't think I wore the same pair twice. If I did it wasn't much. But for a year and 4x a week I swam. There was another guy on the team who did the same. We never really got to talk other then once on AOL, which tells you how long ago that was.

But this ties in to spandex which is up next. I hope you enjoy these insights. They are fun for me to do

Underwear, My First Fetish

I know just seeing this pic for some will take them back to the 80's! Well this is what I consider my very first fetish. Underwear. Before the age of 13 I wore FTL tighty whities. I hated them. They would always loose their shape and having a big package... that I didn't know till later, kept falling out. But then the Jim Palmer ads came out and I saw bikini briefs. I had no clue about them but I can't tell you how many times I jerked off to Jim in his Elance briefs. OMG, I had two or three magazines in my room and no one ever knew I jerked off to it. So this was my porn, well this and bodybuilding magazines. There was another ad I used too, the classic Calvin Klein, in just the fitted tighy whities leaning against the stone. I was in heaven.

Just seeing guys in hot skimpy underwear got me going. After a few months I had to get some. So when we went on a family shopping trip, which we did often. I went to the underwear section and my heart was beating fast. Before me was about 30 different patters, colors and styles. I was in sensory overload. I didn't know what to get. So there was a brown, blue and green pair I got. They were Brut, if anyone remembers them. They were polyester and had a lot of patterns. Every time we'd go back I'd get more. I started wearing bikinis at 13 and I didn't buy any tighty whities, till about age 22. Hell it was 19 before I got a solid pair of white undies.

Underwear become a big part of my life. I would match it to what I wore on occasion and pick out undies for certain occasions. My criteria for underwear was they had to be skimpy and hold everything in place. I hated undies that didn't. So the 80's were perfect for bikini wearing. I think just about everyone wore them at one time or another. The colors and patters were awesome. Then came the boxer brief from CK. I got them as every other gay man did and they drove me nuts. They bunched up, gave no support and I had to get rid of them. So, a few years later I sold them to a guy who wanted them for $20. Which was prob 8 bucks more then I paid for them.

Underwear became part of my sexual activities. I would wear hot pairs when I knew I was going to get lucky or going on a trick. I would ask guys if they had hot underwear. Then request they wear them. I would rub the pouch and ass and get guys off. I loved them to do it to me as well. Then I started asking for undies. If it was a particularly hot guy, I would ask for his undies and I was surprised that about 90% agreed. I guess they were flattered. I would then go home and jerk off to them remembering the encounter.

Even today if I see a guy in hot undies I go bonkers. Its just fucking awesome to me. When i meet a guy into undies its kinda like a brotherhood. When you can talk undies with another guy it's awesome. I think there are a lot more guys into undies then they let on. Cause sometimes when I talk about it they go "I Love undies too" Which when you think about it, as fetishes underwear is pretty tame.

My Domination realization

photo by Probondage2008 on Flickr

If you didn't know, I'm a relatively new Dom. I have always liked it but never acted on it. I would meet guys and thinking back, I probably did use them. I thought that's what you did. You use guys to get you off and that's it. Well, I always felt guilty after. I am graced with a conscience. Which would nag me for days after. So I put it away and thought, well I'll never be a dom. Even though I longed for it.

This year it all changed. I had a bondage experience that really unlocked my inner dom and it was like letting the genie out of the bottle. There was no putting it back in. I met one guy online who's a sub and we talked. I realized there were guys that want to serve as much as I want to be dom. It was a need in them like my need to be dom. It wasn't "I am using them and getting nothing in return." I had a great conversation with him and subsequent ones. I think lately though I have fucked it up with him. He's not returned my IM's or anything. Yeah I fucked up and do regret it but I wasn't aware what I was doing was wrong. He pointed it out and I since changed. Looking back I should have not done it but I thought I was being in the lifestyle. Oh well, that's another story, I have apologized and if he doesn't forgive me then I will move on, It wasn't a bad infraction but not going to keep apologizing about it.

I also talked to another boy, who has since moved out of the area and we had some great conversations as well. He left to be with a leather family. But both guys gave me insight to the sub side of things. It really opened my eyes. I thought a dom relationship was a hard ass dom, getting what he wanted out of a sub. The sub was a slave with no rights and no opinions. Which I didn't agree with or could live a lifestyle. Boy was i wrong on all accounts. Yes, there are guys who do that but a big amount who don't.

I then got on FetLife and found a Sir/Boy in NYC that have exactly what I want. They have a very loving relationship that is based on just that love, and the dom/sub is in there as well. So it's a mix of both. They are in the blog roll here, A master and his slave. They are an amazing couple. I have talked to the Sir and we had some great conversations. I realize that a boy has rights, as you can see by my boys bill of rights, his own opinions, and I want one to speak up when he's not happy. I don't think you can make a boy be happy when his needs aren't being met. I want to protect my boy as well, I would love to be monogamous, which Master/boy are, but wondering how easy that is to find. I think a boy should have some freedoms and you should sit down at the start of the relationship and set all the ground rules. I think it's best to cover everything and then relax as you go. I was reading about Sir/Boy in the blog. Boy is on an allowance, he gets so much every two weeks but does have a credit card for emergencies, spending outside the budget is allowed on circumstances. I think after years together the boy can make judgement calls. As long as he explains them. I would also love to tell my boy what to wear all the time. Even to work. I would follow dress codes and not embarrass him in general pubic. In a dom/sub crowd he'd have to worry about that though!

I have found that dom/sub relationships can be loving and dom at the same time. I really want to find a relationship with a boy. It's not easy to find one in Atlanta. From what I hear from others it's just tough. But, We'll see.

This blog is kinda stream of consciousness. I am dyslexic as well so if anything doesn't make sense just hit me up. I have my IM and Email here so feel free to use it.

Bondage Lesson 2: Rope and more

I had my second bondage lesson on Sunday. I meet up with Limber, as I"ll call him. And he showed me a few things that were pretty cool. The one thing I really enjoyed was his attention to safety. Which I stressed about a few things, and worry about it. But I know as I gain more experience I will gain confidence. I do realize that I need to get my own rope, but with my financial situation right now that's a little tough. I used two kinds of rope at Limbers and enjoyed the Hemp. But for solo play i"m going to use the traditional white rope that is a little bigger, for the life of me I can't remember what its called. I also have to practice some knots. I had some issues with square knots but will practice.

I got there in the afternoon. We talked for a few and got straight to work. I will remind you both guys I have right now are str8. Which I talked about before I like because the sex part of it is taken out of the equation and I'm able to concentrate on correct rope work. I do want to add in milking and cum control at some point though.  But on with the post!

The first thing I did was do  elbow and wrist restraint. I learned I have to be a little tighter in the wrists and make sure its tight but not cutting off circulation. A few times he got out of my rope. The elbow restraint was good, but I learned a little more. As you can see the red ties, he said "Sometimes you can be a lazy top and use other things to cinch the rope. So, it was pretty cool.

The next tie we did was a hog tie. This was fun to do. We just added the ankle tie with the rope going to the elbow and ankles. I have to get better on this one. I like this one but the first guy I tied up I did ok but its not very pretty. I want to do better rope work looking and know that comes in practice. This did cause a problem when he tired to get out, we had some shoulder circulation issues.

The nest thing I did was a harness. I want to learn how do to a full body harness but we did a chest harness and then some wrist restraints. Limber really liked this one and I did a good job tying him up in it. I was glad he didn't get out after 5 minutes. He said we are going to have to do it again. So that was a good sign. We did the harness with almost one piece, then did a square knot and tied two more pieces on to make it longer and then do the wrists. It was pretty cool. I was seriously impressed with the rope work.

Lastly we had just a bit of time left. So we broke out his straight jacket. I have never played with one, and it was very interesting to use. I quickly could tell I have never used one. I didn't know you put the straps under the buckle and through the loop! as you can see in this picture it's correct. Who said bondage was second nature? Then we did the leg restraints. It was one I didn't know if it would work but it did. It was a lot of fun and I got better as the day went by. We hopefully will do more this Sunday.

I hope we get Stretch as we call him to go with me and I can learn on him. He was sick and couldn't make it. One of the ties I want to do is one where the left ankle/wrist are tied together and the same with the right. It looks cool. Then I want to do the chest harness. I hope to have more lessons soon and will let you all know when it happens!