Rope Bondage Update

I did have about 3.5 hours of rope work today. It was really fun and I learned a lot, I just realized I have to learn to do a square knot on the first time. But I have pics, the guy teaching me wanted to see the pics and make sure nothing come out in pictures that could be incriminating. Which I understand and respect. I'll call him "limber" since he is very limber. He was able to get out of things that I know other guys wouldn't. But it makes me have to try a little bit harder.

So I took the pics with his cam and will hopefully get the pics soon and will post them. I will go into more detail then, but for the time being just know it was a fun day. And I got to use a straight jacket as well! Which was very interesting, I have never used one before and it was a learning experience.

I hope to do a lot more and learn more. I ran into one guy who's local who does suspension bondage and it looks cool, we'll see, I friended him on fetlife and hope I get to chat some. Stay tuned for more. This blog has been a good release for me and I plan to do a lot more!

Rope session today

I"m about to leave to have a rope session with a buddy. It's a learning lesson and I can't wait. It's going to be roughly a three hour session. I have found two str8 guys who love bondage and the one today is a switch and we are going to do some fun things. The other one is sick and hope he can join us soon.

I am liking having str8 guys to practice on. It take the whole sex aspect out of the situation and I can concentrate on learning rope. Which I really like. I met this guy last Sunday for coffee and I think he's pretty cool. I hope we can be friends and I can learn a lot more. I hope he'll let me take a few pictures today and I will post them tonight if get them!

Stay tuned for more about the session!

To Leather or Not To Leather

One thing you may notice is to me, the BDSM lifestyle is not about all leather. I don't think you have to own leather to be a part of it. Granted I have some leather, a harness and jock. Which I love, to me I like to mix things up. I don't like doing the same scene over and over. In fact I am one of those people who doesn't like having the same thing for breakfast for more then a week.

I think leather is hot. I always have, my only down side is its expensive as fuck! Well the good stuff is and I have had experience with cheap leather and have come to the conclusion that you have to pay for good stuff and go for quality.  But I hear a few of you out there going, "Yeah man, but other gear is just as expensive" You are correct, it is but I have been into it way longer. I got into leather when I was with my ex in 1995. We went to a leather store here in Atlanta and I got a harness. The guy fit me for it and I instantly got hard. Which being 8+cut it was noticeable. My now ex, got turned on that I was hard and leaking when we did it. Then I got a cheap pair of chaps, is say this because the buckle broke, and I have since sold them to a friend. Plus I have out grown them. Meaning that was when I was a 32 waist and could pull off the twink look (I may have had the look but never had the attitude, thank god). Now I"m a tall beefy guy. Which I like being beefy I just want to tone up and be more muscle bear. I would love some chaps and more boots but since I have been a victim of the wonderful economy I have to wait on that and other gear.

I have many gear interests. I use the term gear for a lack of better word, because some of them are not traditional gear. Note a lot of the pics are of the twinky/slim boys. I have tried to find some beefy/stocky guys in gear but its been a chore.

Underwear
Underwear was my first "Fetish" for a lack of better word. I grew up in the 80's and would always jerk off to underwear pic and bodybuilding magazines. I remember having a few of the Jim Palmer Jockey Elance ads stashed under the bed for those "exploration" times when you are a teen and had to calm those hormones. I can't tell you the times I jerked off to Jim or some hot bodybuilder. This is the formation of my underwear fetish. I love briefs, thongs and jocks the best. Boxer briefs and trunks are good if they are tight. I can't stand loose ones, and boxers are OUT. I have had a love affair with underwear for almost 30 years. I got my first pair of bikini briefs when I was 13 and haven't looked back. 


Speedos

Well, speedos kinda go hand in hand with undies. I was really into undies and then the Olympics happened and I noticed all the guys in speedos for swimming, diving and water polo. I had to get a pair. There used to be a sporting goods store at the mall. When I was 15, I went in, walked around the store and saw my prey. It was a rack of different colored solid speedos. So I grabbed two and probably ran to the fitting room. I tried them on and got so horny. I didn't stay long and left them in the fitting room. But it was prob another year before i got one. It was one that was way too big, I was a 32 waist and just grabbed one and it was a 36. LOL it was a baggy speedo on me but still hot to me! I remember it was purple and pretty hot, had I gotten the right size. Then as I got older, I started wearing them in public and had drawers and drawers. When I used to swim for the gay swim team, I don't think I wore the same pair twice. Now i"m trying to get back in shape to wear them. 

Lycra/Spandex

This again is another Teen age thing. In the late 80's is when spandex really got big! I remember when guys would wear bike shorts just to wear them. I don't think guys would do it today, but back then it was awesome. I saw a football player, a beefy muscular one in bike shorts and I swear I could have shot my load right there. He had this big bulge, might I add no undies under them, you could see his cock, balls and everything. So, I got a pair of bike shorts. Which quickly managed to morph it into singlets, running tights, shirts and UnderArmour has been fucking awesome! So now I love everything spandex and one of my biggest fantasies is super hero play. I want my boy to be the hero and me be the villain, tie him up and seduce him to the dark side. I would love uniforms and masks for this. 

Suits

I really am not sure where my suit "fetish" came from. But seeing a clean cut guy in a suit drives me wild. I guess its the whole conservative thing. I have found most conservative boys tend to be big kinksters in bed. I had a guy I went out with a long time ago and he put on a tux he had for a wedding and I wore a suit and we fucked good! it was hot. I like traditional suits and tux. Some of my favorite things for a guy in a suit are: lace up shoes like wing tips (I don't like loafers with suits), suspenders that button, bow ties (bow ties are cool!) and real ones not clip on, undershirt under dress shirt, colored dress shirts although something to be said for a white shirt. And ties that match undies (oh yeah hot undies are mandatory in suits no tighy whities or boxers). 

Cowboy Gear

This is one I got into because I think I looked hot in it. I got involved with the gay rodeo association for a while and got the hat, boots, big ass buckle, tight wranglers and Garth Brooks shirts. I filled out very well. I had many people go, "You are just into  the rodeo, it looks like you have always worn the gear" Meaning i looked like I grew up and was 100% comfortable in it. I love it to this day. Although I don't fit in my wrangs but everything else I have. Boots with a jock and cowboy hat, I"m in heaven! I usually wear a 2xist thong under my wrangs to show off the crotch. It takes what I have and really enhances it! The best example of this was, I was at the GA Dome here in Atlanta for a PBR event (Professional Bull Riders) and was leaning against the wall, with one foot on the wall. A guy walked by with his arm around his girl, Looked me in the eye, looked down at my crotch and then back up to me and kept walking. I was like hell yeah. 

Baseball Gear

I love sports gear cause I was a band geek and never was a jock, well that's my on self diagnosis for my love of it. I have a Braves Uniform, pants, jersey, cleats and sox. I got the pants off ebay. I have both white and grey. I love it. I can't fit in them right now, but I'm working on it. Just going to an MLB game gets me going. Seeing hot guys in tight pants adjusting themselves LOL, well its not that but I really enjoy games. I want to get catchers gear as well.  Plus in baseball gear you have the compression shorts and cup and jock under it. My favorite cup jock is UnderAmour. It just fits awesome. Although I have issues with the new Bike cups. They tend to run small for me. I have an older one I have and will keep, but the new ones just don't give enough room. I have worn cups all day and have no problem with daily wear.

Football Gear

This is probably my newest gear interest. I have always loved football gear. Back in 2005 or so an online buddy sent me some gear he had, which included a few pairs of football pants and such. I was in heaven. I then started to search for shoulder pads. Which are expensive as fuck. Even used ones on ebay were going for 100 bucks. Which is expensive for play gear. A buddy told me about Football America. They are a football gear store, not for fetish gear but for actual play gear. I searched the football pads and found a pair that would fit me new for $39 bucks. I was like I Must have these. So I ordered them and now I have them. So I have pants, some pads, underarmour shirt, and pads. I don't have a full uniform yet. I really want one with helmet but its fucking expensive, It think more so then leather. But, I will get them in time. The football uniforms I want are: Georgia Tech, Texas Longhorns, Clemson, and either an Army or Navy one. I don't know of a pro team I like.

Sneakers

Last is not really gear but something I have gotten into the last year. I love sneakers on a guy. I keep noticing them on a guy. I was out yesterday and there was a younger guy, you know the hot muscle boy who spends all summer either on the boat or bya pool, tan wearing cargos, tight t and then some really hot sneakers with ankle sox. I was like DAMN. I have been looking more and more at guys feet. Now i don't have a foot fetish, but I love sneakers. I don't want to sniff, lick or anything like that. I saw a pic online the other day that was a guy, just in sneakers and ankle sox, jerking off while sitting in a chair and i loved it. I have always loved guys being nude except for sneakers. I want Pumas bad. My current collection are New Balance, Nike and such. I want to grow the collection.

This is just an insight to my gear fetishes. I hope you enjoyed it and any boys should know you will be put in any of this and underwear is BIG with me so.... I am loving this format and I am kinda unknown. It allows me a safe place to share my thoughts and ideas. I know a few out there know me but I hope you are enjoying this so far.... more to come!

I am a Butt Man

I admit it, I love a nice round bubble butt. I always have, and being a top, I guess it only comes natural. The butt above to me is perfect with a great set of legs to match. You can have a bubble butt but lack the legs to really show it off. I remember the first time I got a bubble butt. I was like a kid in a candystore. The first thing I did was just rub it and touch it. I couldn't believe I had one in my hands. Then I slid the underwear off the ass and rubbed it even more and down the crack. I hadn't had much experience rimming yet so I know I didn't do that ass justice, but still, I had to get down there and part those cheeks and give it the old college try as they way.

After years of practice, I know my way around an ass, especially for rimming. I consider it to be one of my best sexual talents. I hate to see rimming where it's  a quick lick and that's it. I like to really get in there, get my tongue up there and drive the btm crazy. I love to hear them moan and try to get tongue further up their ass. OMG, it's the best ever. I wasn't always into it like that, I had an ex who loved it and then I caught the fever.

I had a top a few years ago, he'd come sit on my face for no less then an hour. I kid you not and I would eat him out and he loved it. I never fucked him but he would ride my tongue. I asked him why he wanted just that? "I'm a top and I usually eat guys ass but they never eat mine. I don't like toys, fingers or a cock in my ass just a tongue, and it takes another top man to get in there and eat an ass" He had a smoking ass so I didn't mind at all.

Here are a few more hot asses.

I know this isn't about bondage, domination or anything but it gives you a better understanding about me. I will post more about me right now. I don't have a face pic on here yet, but I"m sure one is coming never fear.

What Kind of Boy Do I Want?

Well, it has been a long thought process to what I want in a boy. When I thought of Dom/Sub relationships in the past I thought the sir was in charge and the boy did what ever, no matter what, and the boy only reflected his sir. Which I knew wasn't for me. I guess I could be considered a some what romantic dom guy. I also have come to realize that just because a boy submits doesn't mean he stops having his own opinions, hopes and dreams. I don't think I could date a guy who didn't.

The qualities I want in my boy are:

1. Intelligent. I want a boy who's very smart in what ever he does. He can hold a conversation about numerous subjects and teaches me things as well. He's well spoken, thoughtful and can make judgment calls when needed
2. Ambitious - I want a boy who has a career and wants to excel in it. I don't care what that is, hell it could be fast food management, but as long as it's his passion I will support him. I don't mind having a boy who's discovering his passion and send him back to school to get it. 
3. Humorous - I want a boy who makes me laugh. I love to laugh and cut up and want a boy who's my partner in crime at times.
4. Neat and organized - I am not those things so I want a boy who can start off by picking up after me and then discovering a system to keep me organized. It is something we would work on together
5. Versatileboy - I don't think I could date a total btm. I have been reading "the Master and His Slave" blog and when I read that the sir restrained the boy, sat on his face then sat on his cock and rode him till the sir got off. I thought that was so hot. I do like to btm from time to time and would want this option.
6. Very level headed - I want a boy that's level headed and doesn't have a bad temper. I can't stand boys or anyone who just go off on someone. I don't put up with it and I won't stand for it. I know respect is earned by a boy will never earn mine if he has a bad temper. 
7. Guy next door type - Well this is my only physical requirement i have. I love boys who look like the guy next door and no one would ever figure they would be into this. This is not set in stone, but it's definitely a like. 
8. Have his own opinions - A boy should have his own opinions and should stick up for his rights. I don't think boys should be walked over and boys should say when something is wrong. I expect my boy to let me know when he's unhappy, sad, or in general whats going on with him, honest and open. With out it there will be no relationship. 
9. Mature - I had the chance to be a long distance sir for a boy. He just turned 18, although the age kept changing when i talked to him so, I wasn't sure. He was a teen and liked to play the "But I won't want to" game. Which I"m not even going to do. You be willing to come into this, with ground rules set and go from there. None of this pouting or whining. It's not what I want. If that's your thing, then I say have fun but it's not for me. 

All of these are subject to change as I grow, but I doubt they will too much. I really want to have a Dom/Sub relationship. I just have this urge to dom and do it in a loving way. I am super impressed by the "Master And His Slave" they really have a lot of what I want in a relationship. I have taken the questions from them as well so you'll see an area to ask questions so feel free to ask. I'd love to do them on a reg basis. 

I am having a bondage session this weekend, with two str8 guys but I will get to learn the basics and more advanced. I will have pictures and will share that experience with you soon@

I have a Bondage Buddy

This past Friday I got the pleasure to meet my new bondage buddy in person. I met him at Starbucks and we hung out and talked for about 45 mins or so. He's a married guy, who's wife knows about this, and is extremely tall. I'm 6'4" and he's taller the me! Plus he's a really great guy too. We talked about bondage and things in general.

One thing we talked about was no sex during bondage. Which I"m totally fine with, I want a guy I can learn on and gain more experience. I feel bondage is more then just getting off. Its the connection the two people share. So, this is perfectly acceptable. We talked about a lot of the ground rules and we both agreed. It's a good match for us.

I will also be getting some pictures out of it as well. He has agreed to pictures as long as his face is not shown. Which I responded to him, the face is not the important thing in bondage pictures. So, as soon as I can get another lesson, I will take him with me and you will see some of the work!

Safe and Sane.... NOT?

Ok, I have to vent a little here. I totally believe in safe and sane play. That includes safe sex and safety in any scene going on. I think thats a given for me. I feel best about this. If you see the Boy’s Bill of Rights, you will see I fully believe this. 

The one thing I have noticed is that so many in the BDSM community either don’t believe in safety in play or scenes. Or better yet some don’t care about both. 

The reason for this post is I know a boy and asked him to be my toy to learn more in depth bondage. I told him everything was safe and sane and thats when he said he preferred bareback and such. I was like WHOA! I prefer other guys who play safe. One reason is you never know who has something or b if you have something. It’s best for everyone. I don’t waiver on this belief. It’s a condom or no anal PERIOD. Non-negotiable! 

I’ve heard many stories about it, and wonder why it’s so prevalent with guys online. I’m not saying as a community it’s out of control. But the guys I have talked to online have been into either unsafe sex or play. 

To me bondage is a way to literally bond with the boy. Its slow and you take your time and you have contact. It’s not tie a boy up and leave him for a long time. I like edging and milking and make it an experience for both of us. I get off on knowing the boy is enjoying the experience. I had an experience just recently where it wasn’t about sex but about the restraints. I didn’t even get off but it was one of the best I ever had! I loved restraining him, seeing him struggle and try to get out. After I untied him, he told me I did really good rope work! (You will read about that in this blog). 

If anyone can shed some light on this, I would appreciate it. I just don’t get it. But for any boy who plays with me you know the rules and there are no way around them!