My Domination realization

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If you didn't know, I'm a relatively new Dom. I have always liked it but never acted on it. I would meet guys and thinking back, I probably did use them. I thought that's what you did. You use guys to get you off and that's it. Well, I always felt guilty after. I am graced with a conscience. Which would nag me for days after. So I put it away and thought, well I'll never be a dom. Even though I longed for it.

This year it all changed. I had a bondage experience that really unlocked my inner dom and it was like letting the genie out of the bottle. There was no putting it back in. I met one guy online who's a sub and we talked. I realized there were guys that want to serve as much as I want to be dom. It was a need in them like my need to be dom. It wasn't "I am using them and getting nothing in return." I had a great conversation with him and subsequent ones. I think lately though I have fucked it up with him. He's not returned my IM's or anything. Yeah I fucked up and do regret it but I wasn't aware what I was doing was wrong. He pointed it out and I since changed. Looking back I should have not done it but I thought I was being in the lifestyle. Oh well, that's another story, I have apologized and if he doesn't forgive me then I will move on, It wasn't a bad infraction but not going to keep apologizing about it.

I also talked to another boy, who has since moved out of the area and we had some great conversations as well. He left to be with a leather family. But both guys gave me insight to the sub side of things. It really opened my eyes. I thought a dom relationship was a hard ass dom, getting what he wanted out of a sub. The sub was a slave with no rights and no opinions. Which I didn't agree with or could live a lifestyle. Boy was i wrong on all accounts. Yes, there are guys who do that but a big amount who don't.

I then got on FetLife and found a Sir/Boy in NYC that have exactly what I want. They have a very loving relationship that is based on just that love, and the dom/sub is in there as well. So it's a mix of both. They are in the blog roll here, A master and his slave. They are an amazing couple. I have talked to the Sir and we had some great conversations. I realize that a boy has rights, as you can see by my boys bill of rights, his own opinions, and I want one to speak up when he's not happy. I don't think you can make a boy be happy when his needs aren't being met. I want to protect my boy as well, I would love to be monogamous, which Master/boy are, but wondering how easy that is to find. I think a boy should have some freedoms and you should sit down at the start of the relationship and set all the ground rules. I think it's best to cover everything and then relax as you go. I was reading about Sir/Boy in the blog. Boy is on an allowance, he gets so much every two weeks but does have a credit card for emergencies, spending outside the budget is allowed on circumstances. I think after years together the boy can make judgement calls. As long as he explains them. I would also love to tell my boy what to wear all the time. Even to work. I would follow dress codes and not embarrass him in general pubic. In a dom/sub crowd he'd have to worry about that though!

I have found that dom/sub relationships can be loving and dom at the same time. I really want to find a relationship with a boy. It's not easy to find one in Atlanta. From what I hear from others it's just tough. But, We'll see.

This blog is kinda stream of consciousness. I am dyslexic as well so if anything doesn't make sense just hit me up. I have my IM and Email here so feel free to use it.

Bondage Lesson 2: Rope and more

I had my second bondage lesson on Sunday. I meet up with Limber, as I"ll call him. And he showed me a few things that were pretty cool. The one thing I really enjoyed was his attention to safety. Which I stressed about a few things, and worry about it. But I know as I gain more experience I will gain confidence. I do realize that I need to get my own rope, but with my financial situation right now that's a little tough. I used two kinds of rope at Limbers and enjoyed the Hemp. But for solo play i"m going to use the traditional white rope that is a little bigger, for the life of me I can't remember what its called. I also have to practice some knots. I had some issues with square knots but will practice.

I got there in the afternoon. We talked for a few and got straight to work. I will remind you both guys I have right now are str8. Which I talked about before I like because the sex part of it is taken out of the equation and I'm able to concentrate on correct rope work. I do want to add in milking and cum control at some point though.  But on with the post!

The first thing I did was do  elbow and wrist restraint. I learned I have to be a little tighter in the wrists and make sure its tight but not cutting off circulation. A few times he got out of my rope. The elbow restraint was good, but I learned a little more. As you can see the red ties, he said "Sometimes you can be a lazy top and use other things to cinch the rope. So, it was pretty cool.

The next tie we did was a hog tie. This was fun to do. We just added the ankle tie with the rope going to the elbow and ankles. I have to get better on this one. I like this one but the first guy I tied up I did ok but its not very pretty. I want to do better rope work looking and know that comes in practice. This did cause a problem when he tired to get out, we had some shoulder circulation issues.

The nest thing I did was a harness. I want to learn how do to a full body harness but we did a chest harness and then some wrist restraints. Limber really liked this one and I did a good job tying him up in it. I was glad he didn't get out after 5 minutes. He said we are going to have to do it again. So that was a good sign. We did the harness with almost one piece, then did a square knot and tied two more pieces on to make it longer and then do the wrists. It was pretty cool. I was seriously impressed with the rope work.

Lastly we had just a bit of time left. So we broke out his straight jacket. I have never played with one, and it was very interesting to use. I quickly could tell I have never used one. I didn't know you put the straps under the buckle and through the loop! as you can see in this picture it's correct. Who said bondage was second nature? Then we did the leg restraints. It was one I didn't know if it would work but it did. It was a lot of fun and I got better as the day went by. We hopefully will do more this Sunday.

I hope we get Stretch as we call him to go with me and I can learn on him. He was sick and couldn't make it. One of the ties I want to do is one where the left ankle/wrist are tied together and the same with the right. It looks cool. Then I want to do the chest harness. I hope to have more lessons soon and will let you all know when it happens!

Suspension Bondage

This is really something I want to work my way up too. I know it's prob the most difficult of the bondage forms. It takes a lot of experience and work. Plus the stakes of something going wrong are elevated, literally, due to a fall. But these pics are so cool!

Rope Bondage Update

I did have about 3.5 hours of rope work today. It was really fun and I learned a lot, I just realized I have to learn to do a square knot on the first time. But I have pics, the guy teaching me wanted to see the pics and make sure nothing come out in pictures that could be incriminating. Which I understand and respect. I'll call him "limber" since he is very limber. He was able to get out of things that I know other guys wouldn't. But it makes me have to try a little bit harder.

So I took the pics with his cam and will hopefully get the pics soon and will post them. I will go into more detail then, but for the time being just know it was a fun day. And I got to use a straight jacket as well! Which was very interesting, I have never used one before and it was a learning experience.

I hope to do a lot more and learn more. I ran into one guy who's local who does suspension bondage and it looks cool, we'll see, I friended him on fetlife and hope I get to chat some. Stay tuned for more. This blog has been a good release for me and I plan to do a lot more!

Rope session today

I"m about to leave to have a rope session with a buddy. It's a learning lesson and I can't wait. It's going to be roughly a three hour session. I have found two str8 guys who love bondage and the one today is a switch and we are going to do some fun things. The other one is sick and hope he can join us soon.

I am liking having str8 guys to practice on. It take the whole sex aspect out of the situation and I can concentrate on learning rope. Which I really like. I met this guy last Sunday for coffee and I think he's pretty cool. I hope we can be friends and I can learn a lot more. I hope he'll let me take a few pictures today and I will post them tonight if get them!

Stay tuned for more about the session!

To Leather or Not To Leather

One thing you may notice is to me, the BDSM lifestyle is not about all leather. I don't think you have to own leather to be a part of it. Granted I have some leather, a harness and jock. Which I love, to me I like to mix things up. I don't like doing the same scene over and over. In fact I am one of those people who doesn't like having the same thing for breakfast for more then a week.

I think leather is hot. I always have, my only down side is its expensive as fuck! Well the good stuff is and I have had experience with cheap leather and have come to the conclusion that you have to pay for good stuff and go for quality.  But I hear a few of you out there going, "Yeah man, but other gear is just as expensive" You are correct, it is but I have been into it way longer. I got into leather when I was with my ex in 1995. We went to a leather store here in Atlanta and I got a harness. The guy fit me for it and I instantly got hard. Which being 8+cut it was noticeable. My now ex, got turned on that I was hard and leaking when we did it. Then I got a cheap pair of chaps, is say this because the buckle broke, and I have since sold them to a friend. Plus I have out grown them. Meaning that was when I was a 32 waist and could pull off the twink look (I may have had the look but never had the attitude, thank god). Now I"m a tall beefy guy. Which I like being beefy I just want to tone up and be more muscle bear. I would love some chaps and more boots but since I have been a victim of the wonderful economy I have to wait on that and other gear.

I have many gear interests. I use the term gear for a lack of better word, because some of them are not traditional gear. Note a lot of the pics are of the twinky/slim boys. I have tried to find some beefy/stocky guys in gear but its been a chore.

Underwear
Underwear was my first "Fetish" for a lack of better word. I grew up in the 80's and would always jerk off to underwear pic and bodybuilding magazines. I remember having a few of the Jim Palmer Jockey Elance ads stashed under the bed for those "exploration" times when you are a teen and had to calm those hormones. I can't tell you the times I jerked off to Jim or some hot bodybuilder. This is the formation of my underwear fetish. I love briefs, thongs and jocks the best. Boxer briefs and trunks are good if they are tight. I can't stand loose ones, and boxers are OUT. I have had a love affair with underwear for almost 30 years. I got my first pair of bikini briefs when I was 13 and haven't looked back. 


Speedos

Well, speedos kinda go hand in hand with undies. I was really into undies and then the Olympics happened and I noticed all the guys in speedos for swimming, diving and water polo. I had to get a pair. There used to be a sporting goods store at the mall. When I was 15, I went in, walked around the store and saw my prey. It was a rack of different colored solid speedos. So I grabbed two and probably ran to the fitting room. I tried them on and got so horny. I didn't stay long and left them in the fitting room. But it was prob another year before i got one. It was one that was way too big, I was a 32 waist and just grabbed one and it was a 36. LOL it was a baggy speedo on me but still hot to me! I remember it was purple and pretty hot, had I gotten the right size. Then as I got older, I started wearing them in public and had drawers and drawers. When I used to swim for the gay swim team, I don't think I wore the same pair twice. Now i"m trying to get back in shape to wear them. 

Lycra/Spandex

This again is another Teen age thing. In the late 80's is when spandex really got big! I remember when guys would wear bike shorts just to wear them. I don't think guys would do it today, but back then it was awesome. I saw a football player, a beefy muscular one in bike shorts and I swear I could have shot my load right there. He had this big bulge, might I add no undies under them, you could see his cock, balls and everything. So, I got a pair of bike shorts. Which quickly managed to morph it into singlets, running tights, shirts and UnderArmour has been fucking awesome! So now I love everything spandex and one of my biggest fantasies is super hero play. I want my boy to be the hero and me be the villain, tie him up and seduce him to the dark side. I would love uniforms and masks for this. 

Suits

I really am not sure where my suit "fetish" came from. But seeing a clean cut guy in a suit drives me wild. I guess its the whole conservative thing. I have found most conservative boys tend to be big kinksters in bed. I had a guy I went out with a long time ago and he put on a tux he had for a wedding and I wore a suit and we fucked good! it was hot. I like traditional suits and tux. Some of my favorite things for a guy in a suit are: lace up shoes like wing tips (I don't like loafers with suits), suspenders that button, bow ties (bow ties are cool!) and real ones not clip on, undershirt under dress shirt, colored dress shirts although something to be said for a white shirt. And ties that match undies (oh yeah hot undies are mandatory in suits no tighy whities or boxers). 

Cowboy Gear

This is one I got into because I think I looked hot in it. I got involved with the gay rodeo association for a while and got the hat, boots, big ass buckle, tight wranglers and Garth Brooks shirts. I filled out very well. I had many people go, "You are just into  the rodeo, it looks like you have always worn the gear" Meaning i looked like I grew up and was 100% comfortable in it. I love it to this day. Although I don't fit in my wrangs but everything else I have. Boots with a jock and cowboy hat, I"m in heaven! I usually wear a 2xist thong under my wrangs to show off the crotch. It takes what I have and really enhances it! The best example of this was, I was at the GA Dome here in Atlanta for a PBR event (Professional Bull Riders) and was leaning against the wall, with one foot on the wall. A guy walked by with his arm around his girl, Looked me in the eye, looked down at my crotch and then back up to me and kept walking. I was like hell yeah. 

Baseball Gear

I love sports gear cause I was a band geek and never was a jock, well that's my on self diagnosis for my love of it. I have a Braves Uniform, pants, jersey, cleats and sox. I got the pants off ebay. I have both white and grey. I love it. I can't fit in them right now, but I'm working on it. Just going to an MLB game gets me going. Seeing hot guys in tight pants adjusting themselves LOL, well its not that but I really enjoy games. I want to get catchers gear as well.  Plus in baseball gear you have the compression shorts and cup and jock under it. My favorite cup jock is UnderAmour. It just fits awesome. Although I have issues with the new Bike cups. They tend to run small for me. I have an older one I have and will keep, but the new ones just don't give enough room. I have worn cups all day and have no problem with daily wear.

Football Gear

This is probably my newest gear interest. I have always loved football gear. Back in 2005 or so an online buddy sent me some gear he had, which included a few pairs of football pants and such. I was in heaven. I then started to search for shoulder pads. Which are expensive as fuck. Even used ones on ebay were going for 100 bucks. Which is expensive for play gear. A buddy told me about Football America. They are a football gear store, not for fetish gear but for actual play gear. I searched the football pads and found a pair that would fit me new for $39 bucks. I was like I Must have these. So I ordered them and now I have them. So I have pants, some pads, underarmour shirt, and pads. I don't have a full uniform yet. I really want one with helmet but its fucking expensive, It think more so then leather. But, I will get them in time. The football uniforms I want are: Georgia Tech, Texas Longhorns, Clemson, and either an Army or Navy one. I don't know of a pro team I like.

Sneakers

Last is not really gear but something I have gotten into the last year. I love sneakers on a guy. I keep noticing them on a guy. I was out yesterday and there was a younger guy, you know the hot muscle boy who spends all summer either on the boat or bya pool, tan wearing cargos, tight t and then some really hot sneakers with ankle sox. I was like DAMN. I have been looking more and more at guys feet. Now i don't have a foot fetish, but I love sneakers. I don't want to sniff, lick or anything like that. I saw a pic online the other day that was a guy, just in sneakers and ankle sox, jerking off while sitting in a chair and i loved it. I have always loved guys being nude except for sneakers. I want Pumas bad. My current collection are New Balance, Nike and such. I want to grow the collection.

This is just an insight to my gear fetishes. I hope you enjoyed it and any boys should know you will be put in any of this and underwear is BIG with me so.... I am loving this format and I am kinda unknown. It allows me a safe place to share my thoughts and ideas. I know a few out there know me but I hope you are enjoying this so far.... more to come!

I am a Butt Man

I admit it, I love a nice round bubble butt. I always have, and being a top, I guess it only comes natural. The butt above to me is perfect with a great set of legs to match. You can have a bubble butt but lack the legs to really show it off. I remember the first time I got a bubble butt. I was like a kid in a candystore. The first thing I did was just rub it and touch it. I couldn't believe I had one in my hands. Then I slid the underwear off the ass and rubbed it even more and down the crack. I hadn't had much experience rimming yet so I know I didn't do that ass justice, but still, I had to get down there and part those cheeks and give it the old college try as they way.

After years of practice, I know my way around an ass, especially for rimming. I consider it to be one of my best sexual talents. I hate to see rimming where it's  a quick lick and that's it. I like to really get in there, get my tongue up there and drive the btm crazy. I love to hear them moan and try to get tongue further up their ass. OMG, it's the best ever. I wasn't always into it like that, I had an ex who loved it and then I caught the fever.

I had a top a few years ago, he'd come sit on my face for no less then an hour. I kid you not and I would eat him out and he loved it. I never fucked him but he would ride my tongue. I asked him why he wanted just that? "I'm a top and I usually eat guys ass but they never eat mine. I don't like toys, fingers or a cock in my ass just a tongue, and it takes another top man to get in there and eat an ass" He had a smoking ass so I didn't mind at all.

Here are a few more hot asses.

I know this isn't about bondage, domination or anything but it gives you a better understanding about me. I will post more about me right now. I don't have a face pic on here yet, but I"m sure one is coming never fear.